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5 Big Warnings For Men Who Are Attracted To Strong Women. This article is written for men, talking directly to men. Men who have an interest in women (whether heterosexual or bisexual).

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Even more specifically, the men who say that they want an independent woman. The men who find powerful, determined women sexy. The men who write on forums that they are looking for women who pay their own way, won’t ‘rinse them’ and have their own careers and minds. The men who find themselves attracted to strong women. This is written for the men who say they love an intelligent, educated woman because they are ‘feisty’. Ew. Sound like you? Sound like a man you know? There are some things you need to know before you go chasing women who have their act together. If you get all the way through this blog and still think you can be a good partner to the ‘strong woman’ you seek — then great stuff, crack on. However, if this blog makes you uncomfortable or angry, you might want to re-evaluate your choices and consider that you will not make a good partner for a determined woman. You might even want to question whether you are fetishizing women or hope to control them. I would hope it goes without saying, but I am proven wrong over and over again online, so here goes: Many of the points I raise in this blog are relevant to all women. Respect all women. I cannot stress that enough. These ‘strong independent women’ you are interested in aren’t any better than any other woman and they aren’t worth more than any other woman. 1. Independent women don’t need you. The most important point that you need to get super comfortable with, super quick, is that the ‘strong, independent woman’ you want doesn’t actually need you for anything. She doesn’t need you to fund her life. She doesn’t need you to rescue her. She doesn’t need to be showered with gifts or compliments. She doesn’t need you to protect her. She doesn’t need you to provide for her. No, she doesn’t need you. Instead, she is interested in you. Wanting a partner is different from needing a partner. The women you are interested in don’t need you, because they are already self-sufficient. If you are looking for a woman to fix, rescue, provide for and control, you need to look at yourself and explore why you want to be a dominator in your relationships instead of an equal. The ‘strong, independent woman’ you want is looking for an equal contributor in a relationship, not someone who seeks to rescue her or control her. You need to get comfortable with being wanted but not needed. If you want a relationship in which the woman is reliant on you for everything, the issue lies with you. Anyway, isn’t it the biggest compliment to anyone to be wanted instead of needed? 2. Independent, strong women don’t want to fix you or babysit you. If you are attracted to a woman who has her sh*t together, don’t expect her to drop everything she is doing to babysit you and your life. Equals in a relationship support each other, but they don’t babysit one another. You are a grown man and you need to be independent, too. Have your own hobbies and interests and goals in life. Do your own washing, your own cooking, your own cleaning, your own bill payments. Remember your Mum’s birthday all by yourself. Look after the kids. Know where the Christmas decorations are. Book your own hospital appointments. Remember the kid’s parent evenings at school and plays without being reminded seven times. Similarly, women are not your rehab. Not just the independent, strong women you fancy — any woman at all. Your girlfriend, your mother, your ex, your female friends. None of them are here to fix you and nurture you. Women are not in the world to fix broken men. No matter what has happened to you in childhood or in your life, it is not the job of a woman (the olde ‘love of a good woman will fix you’ narrative) to repair your broken pieces. Do it yourself, the way women have for millennia. Don’t seek a relationship in order to fix yourself or to gain a full time maid and mother. If this section is making you uncomfortable, you might want to explore your own therapy, support or advice before seeking new relationships. If you recognise that you are currently in a relationship with a strong woman who you have been expecting to fix you or babysit you, stop. Stop, take a step back, look at your behaviour and attitudes towards yourself and her. Then go and seek help. Like now. 3. Independent women have their own stuff going on that you don’t need to be a part of. The women you seek are likely to have a whole host of goals, priorities, responsibilities and roles in their lives that you don’t need to be a part of. It’s not that you shouldn’t care about what she is passionate about, but you don’t have to be the centre of it all. You don’t have to be included and you don’t have to be the centre of her attention all the time. This is not at all negative. You both still exist as humans in your own right. You don’t have to do everything together. You need to respect each other and what you both care about, but you don’t have to be involved. Traditionally, men have had these roles and goals for centuries and women were excluded from all of it. It was a social norm that women didn’t accompany men to their meets, their employment, their social events or their travels. Globally, there are still many environments and parts of life that women are excluded from because they are perceived as irrelevant or a nuisance to men. However, when a woman does the same thing, it is often seen as the woman not caring about her male partner or being selfish or neglectful to her relationship or marriage. Think about what I am saying. Are you the bloke that moans that Steve has brought his missus to the pub again, but then guilt trips your girlfriend or wife when she wants to go out alone with her friends or colleagues? You don’t need to be the centre of their world all of the time. You are supposed to be their equal. Go through life together — but that doesn’t mean that she needs to put you at the centre of everything she does. If you have ever said the words ‘You’re supposed to put me above everyone and everything else…’ then you, Sir, have issues with control. 4. Independent, strong women are often feminists, activists, career focussed, or goal orientated — and you need to be happy with that. This one is important. This one is for all the men who claim they want a ‘strong, independent’ woman but hate feminism, activism, career-focussed and goal-orientated women. These attitudes are incompatible. Many women find feminism. They start to realise that there is discrimination, oppression and mockery of intelligent and successful women and they will find their clan. They become more and more critical of the way they are treated in their careers, studies and lives. In the words of Dr. Maya Angelou, ‘Of course I am a feminist. I have been a female for a long time now. It’d be stupid not to be on my own side.’ The last thing they need is a man who is uncomfortable with feminism, women’s rights, career-focus and ambition. Especially when that man professed to be attracted to independent, go-getting women. If anything at all, they need a partner who truly recognises, admits and validates their struggle and is by their side when they are belittled, mansplained, discriminated against and trolled for being brilliant.













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